I used to have zero confidence. I was extremely nervous about going out in public or talking to someone at the grocery store. Honestly, any situation that involved human interaction made me uncomfortable.
The truth is that I let anxiety get the best of me. I allowed negative thoughts to enter my head, ruin my mindset, and make me believe that the entire world was trying to prevent me from being happy.
I felt hopeless. But one evening, I was watching some self-improvement videos on YouTube when I came across a beautiful speech by . These few words changed the trajectory of my life forever and inspired me to find ways to become the person I want to be. He said:
“Change will not come if we wait for some other person, or if we wait for some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”
From this, I learned that nothing in your life will ever change unless you take action. Why? Because nobody is coming to save you. Not your mom, dad, the government, or anyone else. Whether you like it or not, change starts and ends with you.
All you need to do is increase your confidence, so you can begin improving every aspect of your life for the better.
Recognize That Change Is Possible
Most people are stuck thinking things will remain the same forever. They tell themselves that this is how things are and will always be. Having grown up in a small town that hasn’t changed since the 1930s, I’m empathetic as to why people think this way.
I used to be a pessimist. I was what some people would describe as a “Debbie Downer.” In case you didn’t know, that’s a nickname for someone who continually dampens the mood with negative comments.
For a long time, I genuinely believed that change was impossible. So if I wasn’t very confident aged 14, I had no reason to think that things would be different in thirty years. For me, life was merely an experience of continual negativity and insults.
But when I started listening to speeches by Barack Obama, I noticed my mindset slowly beginning to change. I know it sounds incredibly cliche. But it’s true.
All of a sudden, I realized that a better life was possible. And in doing so, I developed the confidence to mold my personality into someone that I was proud to be. Like Barack Obama once said:
“Hope is that stubborn thing inside us that insists, despite all the evidence to the contrary, that something better awaits us so long as we have the courage to keep reaching, to keep working, to keep fighting.”
Recognize that change is possible. You are capable of achieving a lot more than you think.
The best way to start? Identify the habits of your ideal self and implement them immediately.
Have Faith In Your Ability To Succeed
If you want to become more confident in every aspect of your life, accept that things won’t always go your way.
There will inevitably be times when you question why you’re chasing your dream in the first place. But do you want to know the quality that separates people who achieve success from people that don’t? Perseverance.
When you’re willing to do whatever it takes to achieve your dreams and create the future you desire, it’s much easier to have confidence in your ability to succeed.
A strong feeling of self-belief will ensure that you never give up on anything that you aspire to achieve. In the words of Barack Obama:
“Where we are met with cynicism and doubt and fear and those who tell us that we can’t, we will respond with that timeless creed that sums up the spirit of the American people in three simple words — yes, we can.”
I used to have a lot of difficulties when it came to making new friends. Whenever I thought of approaching someone, I immediately assumed they wouldn’t be interested in talking to me.
But then I started to accept that some people inevitably wouldn’t like me. So instead of getting worried about people who didn’t want to be my friend, I began to focus solely on the people that did.
This mindset shift changed my life forever. I recognized that nothing in my social life was going to change until I took action.
So I stopped being afraid of rejection and began to concentrate on what I could do in the present moment to meet more people. Within a matter of weeks, I found myself having a much better social life than I ever thought possible.
Barack Obama once said:
“If you’re walking down the right path and you’re willing to keep walking, eventually you’ll make progress.”
Take ownership of your dreams. Remember that confidence will only come when you have genuine faith in your ability to succeed.
Because when you’re optimistic about your future and persevere in the face of adversity, you’ll eventually create the life you desire.